Couples Therapy Services

happy-couple-of-colorThank you for your interest in starting couples therapy with me.

To make an initial appointment to see me, please call 512-465-2926 and talk to my assistant, Polly who can set up an account for you on my secure client portal or tell you my availability.

In the first meeting we will talk about what brings you to couples therapy, what your goals and hopes are for this work, and how I might best meet your needs.  This is also your opportunity to find out about my training and background to see if we are a good fit.
I want you to make sure you have trust and confidence in my abilities and experience.  I also want you to make sure that both you and your partner are ready to make the commitment of time and effort to make changes in your relationship.  Your help and investment outside our sessions is crucial in ensuring the success of our collaborative efforts.

I am a certified Gottman therapist and a Master trainer and consultant for the Gottman Institute.  What this means is that all of my work is informed by the over 37 years of systematic research conducted byDrs. John and Julie Gottman on what makes relationships work.  Their Sound Relationship House model is a template for the kind of healthy intimacy I will try to help you achieve.

I am also certified as a Seminar Director for Prepare-Enrich, a widely used couples assessment program.  I have completed advanced training in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy — a model developed through many decades of careful research by Dr. Susan Johnson.

 ABOUT GOTTMAN COUPLES THERAPY

Gottman Method Couples Therapy combines the knowledge and wisdom of more than three decades of Gottman research and clinical practice. Through research-based interventions and exercises, it helps couples break through barriers to achieve greater understanding, connection and intimacy in their relationships. Gottman Method Couples Therapy is a structured, goal-oriented, scientifically-based therapy. Intervention strategies are based upon empirical data from Dr. Gottman’s three decades of research with more than 3,000 couples. This research shows us what actually works to help couples achieve a long-term healthy relationship.

Gottman Method Couples Therapy was developed out of this research to help couples:

  • Increase respect, affection, and closeness
  • Break through and resolve conflict when they feel stuck
  • Generate greater understanding between partners
  • Keep conflict discussions calm

Research shows that to make a relationship last, couples must become better friends, learn to manage conflict, and create ways to support each other’s hopes for the future. Drs. John and Julie Gottman have shown how couples can accomplish this by paying attention to what they call the Sound Relationship House, or the seven components of healthy coupleships.

THE GOTTMAN THEORY FOR MAKING RELATIONSHIPS WORK

Build Love Maps: How well do you know your partner’s inner psychological world, his or her history, worries, stresses, joys, and hopes?
Share Fondness and Admiration: The antidote for contempt, this level focuses on the amount of affection and respect within a relationship. (To strengthen fondness and admiration, express appreciation and respect.)
Turn Towards: State your needs, be aware of bids for connection and turn towards them. The small moments of everyday life are actually the building blocks of relationship.
The Positive Perspective: The presence of a positive approach to problem-solving and the success of repair attempts.
Manage Conflict: We say “manage” conflict rather than “resolve” conflict, because relationship conflict is natural and has functional, positive aspects. Understand that there is a critical difference in handling perpetual problems and solvable problems.
Make Life Dreams Come True: Create an atmosphere that encourages each person to talk honestly about his or her hopes, values, convictions and aspirations.
Create Shared Meaning: Understand important visions, narratives, myths, and metaphors about your relationship.
Trust: this is the state that occurs when a person knows that his or her partner acts and thinks to maximize that person’s interests, and maximize that person’s benefits, not just the partner’s own interests and benefits. In other words, this means, “my partner has my back and is there for me.”
Commitment: This means believing (and acting on the belief) that your relationship with this person is completely your lifelong journey, for better or for worse (meaning that if it gets worse you will both work to improve it). It implies cherishing your partner’s positive qualities and nurturing gratitude by comparing the partner favorably with real or imagined others, rather than trashing the partner by magnifying negative qualities, and nurturing resentment by comparing unfavorably with real or imagined others.

 

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